The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern Relationships

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“Susan Piver consistently offers what so many of us seek: A generous, caring, loving teacher, someone with an open heart and a clear mind, eager to help us find our own way forward.” –Seth Godin, author of Linchpin.

Broken hearts, resentment, affairs, divorce. Why is it so hard to make relationships work? New York Times bestselling author and mindfulness expert Susan Piver applies classic Buddhist wisdom to modern romance, including her own long-term relationship, to show that ancient philosophies have timeless—and unexpected—wisdom on how to love.

The Four Noble Truths of Love will challenge the expectations you have about dating, sex, and romance, liberating you from the habits, traumas, and expectations that have been holding back your relationships. This mindful approach toward love will help you open your heart fearlessly, deepen communications with your partner, increase your compassion and resilience, and lead you toward a path of true happiness. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain: expansive, real love for yourself and others.

From the Publisher

The Four Noble Truths of Love applies Buddhist teachings to modern relationships, not by offering a “quick fix,” but by offering insight into the instability and flux of long-term relationships, and how accepting this supports ease and love—much needed insight with divorce rates reaching 50%.The first book about relationships by a Western Buddhist teacher who is also a wife, Susan offers engaging, personal reflections about the challenges and victories in her own marriage.

The Four Noble Truths of Love:

Noble Truth #1

Falling in love is glorious, wonderful. Real. But what happens next? We have been led to believe that at some point, you settle into a relationship, work out all the kinks, and enjoy a cozy ride from that point forward. The truth is, this never happens. When you solve one problem, another one pops up. Relationships are uncomfortable because they never stabilize.

Noble Truth #2

When most of us say we are looking for love, we don’t exactly mean that. Rather, we are looking for safety, a port in the storm of life. When love doesn’t provide that, we may get angry or think there is a problem and insist that something or someone needs to change. Our relationship becomes transactional. I don’t know what this way of relating to another is called, I just know it’s not called love.

Noble Truth #3

A great partner is not one who will continually work harder to meet your needs or accurately assign/assume blame for problems. A great partner is one who will turn to stand shoulder to shoulder with you to look at and become absorbed by the ride itself. Now we love each other. Now we don’t. How fascinating…

Noble Truth #4

These three steps are based in the Buddhist 3-yana view, or the 3 cycles of core teachings. The first cycle focuses on creating the foundation, the second on discovering the truth about love, and the third on meeting everything that transpires between you as a chance to deepen, not love, but intimacy.

About Susan Piver

Susan Piver is the New York Times best-selling author of nine books, including “The Hard Questions,” the award-winning “How Not to Be Afraid of Your Own Life,” “The Wisdom of a Broken Heart,” “Start Here Now: An Open-Hearted Guide to the Path and Practice of Meditation,” and “The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern Relationships.”Beyond writing, Piver is an internationally-acclaimed meditation teacher, known for her ability to translate ancient practices into modern-life. She teaches workshops and speaks on relationships, creativity, and spirituality. She has been a student of Buddhism since 1995, graduated from a Buddhist seminary in 2004, and was authorized to teach meditation in 2005.Her work has been featured on the Oprah show, TODAY, CNN, 10% Happier and in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Real Simple, and others.In 2012, she founded the Open Heart Project, the largest virtual mindfulness community in the world.

Publisher ‏ : ‎ Lionheart Press
Publication date ‏ : ‎ June 1, 2018
Language ‏ : ‎ English
Print length ‏ : ‎ 194 pages
ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1732277605
ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1732277601
Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 7.5 ounces
Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 5 x 0.49 x 8 inches
Best Sellers Rank: #260,565 in Books (See Top 100 in Books) #119 in Tibetan Buddhism (Books) #741 in Communication & Social Skills (Books) #753 in Marriage
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